Self-esteem is an integral part of who we are and is important to have it operating at optimal efficiency if we are to share the best of ourselves with the world. All too often, if in the past, we have been criticized by or compared to other people, it could have left an imprint on our self-esteem and how we see ourselves in relation to others.
If you didn’t have a process in place to help you discern whether judgments were true or not, it stands to reason that you may have internalized some of that negativity without even realizing it. This isn’t good for you emotionally or spiritually.
It’s by re-examining the source of any self-judgement you carry, that you can discern whether it’s yours to carry, or a concept put into you by another. More often than not, it’s not yours and by putting it into context, you can move from self-doubt to self-worth, ultimately working towards self-love and higher self-esteem.
Self-judgement is often deep rooted, but it’s important to recognize the source. We may have been taught that taking care of ourselves was selfish, when it’s what we should have been doing all along. It’s by taking care of ourselves that we stay strong ensuring we can be of service to ourselves and others.
How can we offer our true gifts to one another if we are mired in low self-worth?
How can we live in a society that is interdependent with one another, attempting to complete the larger puzzle of life, if we are reluctant to share our true selves and our gifts with others because we hold back out of fear of being criticized or judged?
We shortchange ourselves by minimizing the importance our emotions play in our lives and in our ability to have intimate relationships with others. Unprocessed childhood events often leave us reluctant to show who we really are to the world. By not sharing who we are and what gifts we offer each other, we deny others access to our unique abilities; when often it’s the people around us who could benefit from our skills and talents the most.
Adults conceptualize faster than children. It’s by re-examining past events and how our emotional framework operates that we can understand how our emotions affect us today. By doing so, we can put them in perspective. When we know how to put our best selves forward, we are encouraged to share it with the people in our lives so they can do the same for themselves, creating a win-win for everyone.
Below is an excerpt from the introduction of Chapter Six featured in Ending Global Loneliness; Finding Purpose, Love and Dynamic Relationships.
Set Yourself Up For Success
Outside Your Comfort Zone Is Where You Will Find Your
Whenever you are doing anything new, anxiety will often accompany you. It
is important to recognize that so you don’t start second-guessing yourself if
you start to feel it coming on. Regardless of whether you embark on a journey
of discovery, achieving a dream, or anything else worth doing, demons of one
sort or another will more than likely surface, even if it is only in the form of
doubt. Those demons can be destructive and can keep you down; they can
distract you, the same way procrastination does, by trying to prevent you
from doing what you are meant to do, so don’t let this deter you.
Anxiety can happen with career changes, moves, going to university,
getting married, or starting a family, which are all viewed as positive events,
as well as when we process emotions, which should also be considered a
positive event. It’s important to put steps in place to process your emotions
so you can move forward. Once you put those steps in place, your journey will
find a momentum of its own.
I approach doing discovery work the same way I do any project. To do it
well, you must be organized in your approach. By structuring the environment
that you are doing your recovery work in, you can set realistic expectations
for yourself and avoid common pitfalls of discovery. In doing discovery work,
create an emotionally safe space by establishing a set of parameters in which
you can function, so you can explore your memories, emotions, and any past
emotional pain in a safe manner.
What I consider an emotional framework can be considered a set of
“guardrails” to help you access your “truth” safely. You don’t have to stay
focused on the past for long, but it does need to be understood in order to
Creating a Safe Place to Process Your Emotions
The following are some of the strategies that we will be covering to create a
“safe place” for processing emotions:
- unleashing your power by setting your intentions
- quieting your mind; creating new space through thoughtlessness
- exploring the purpose of memory
- understanding that it’s not only our minds that remember, our bodies and hearts do as well
- relearning loving touch
- nurturing your soul
- releasing feelings
- preparing for triggers
- understanding emotions and how to process them
- understanding why some emotions seem negative
- you cannot move forward in love if you are trapped in shame
- practicing love and shame poses
- defining what emotional unrest is
- knowing our positive and negative “go to” behaviours
- understanding how intuitive wisdom guides our choices in life
If you are longing to regain your sense of self, these strategies are just some of the ways we can help you achieve breakthroughs. By reacquainting ourselves with our deep human nature and how our bodies and hearts influence our responses, we can open up our future for endless possibilities of feeling deeper love and compassion in life for ourselves and others.
The practices in Ending Global Loneliness offer a gentler way to get back on your path of discovery and living a life you want. It shows you ways to understand how past childhood programming and negative emotions keep us from shining as we were meant to shine all along.
If you are curious about how these strategies can help you, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I would be honoured to discuss it with you further.
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