Where I live, January traditionally is the most depressing time of the year and although there are plenty of opportunities to get out and do things to help get over the hump of feeling lonely or isolated, sometimes a more profound solution can be found closer to home. When people ask me how they can overcome feelings of loneliness, I suggest they turn to their inner guidance, their inner voice for answers. So if you haven’t tried it yet, do the unexpected. When experiencing any feelings of loneliness, just sit with the feeling and do nothing. That’s right; do nothing except get quiet, become aware and listen to yourself as you pay closer attention to what your inner voice is telling you.

As crazy as it sounds, if you haven’t checked in with yourself lately, try it.You may unearth a ton of information that you may not have been previously aware. You can get in touch with yourself a variety of ways. Here are my top four.

1. Plan for your future in a way that you want to live it. Get excited about your future prospects. If you could live your life in the most fulfilling way, what would it look like? What do you want to experience in your life? Prepare a list of a minimum of three things. I’m not talking about acquiring nice jewelry or the fancy car that can amuse us temporarily; those are nice to have, but don’t give us a lot of meaning. I’m referring to what it is that inspires you. Feelings of loneliness can be brought on because of lack of feeling needed or fulfilled. As you create your list, don’t forget to include living your life with purpose. When you are driven by a desire to achieve what inspires you (your passion or your purpose), you become connected to your cause and more deeply to yourself. Is there a person who comes to mind that is doing something inspirational in the world that you admire? What inspires you? It feels good to make a difference in the world. Not having a purpose or cause can leave a person feeling in limbo and out of sync if they don’t feel inspired. Make this the year you ask yourself what you truly want. What have you got to lose? Having an idea of what you want your future to look like is a great first step in getting you where you want to be. You can take it a step further by asking; “How may I be of service to others.” Write it down so you can refer back to it periodically. If it is a life partner you are looking for, don’t be so focused on who they are. Instead envision what you will be doing when that person arrives. What will attract them to you? Besides, if you are counting on that person to bring you happiness, your union is doomed to fail; happiness comes from within.
2. Take an inventory of your life as it is now. This is a simple self-awareness exercise to do. Look back at what you did in the last 12 months. Write down what worked for you and what did not. By separating out the various areas of your life, it makes it easier to recap how you spend your time. How much time did you spend with others and how much time did you take for yourself? What did you enjoy doing? Rate your overall feelings in categories of physical well-being, career, hobbies and interests, financial, relationships with yourself and others. How did the last 12 months measure up for you? What excited you and made you happy? Are you planning on doing anything differently in 2017? By outlining what makes you happy and by categorizing it in chunks of time, you can clearly see how your days, weeks and months were spent and with whom. What didn’t work for you? If something isn’t working for you anymore, can you remove it from your life or at least reduce the amount of time you spend doing what it is that you don’t like? (This could also apply to a person).
3. Listen with your awareness. There are many ways we can experience loneliness, and feeling disconnected from ourselves is one of them. We can’t feel deeply connected to those around us if we aren’t feeling what is happening in our inner world. How does your body feel right now? Are you holding tension, feeling constricted or do you have a feeling of tightness anywhere in your body? Take a deep breath in and as you exhale, notice how your body feels to you. Repeat this a couple of times if it feels right. Is there something your body is telling you that you weren’t aware of? Listen to yourself without judgement—perhaps an idea comes to mind that gives you a fresh perspective on an issue you are facing. You are your most trusted advisor, and by listening to yourself, you are connecting with your inner self and when you do this on a richer, deeper level, you are never alone.
4. Change your perspective to that of positivity. Being aware that you want your life to change is huge. With that awareness, you can change your vibe. What chores or mundane jobs are required of you that you don’t like to do? When you change your focus to what benefit you receive by doing a particular job or chore, it can turn the experience from a negative to a positive and positive people are infectious to be around. Is there a silver lining or a perspective that can be positively reflected upon with regard to your less than favorite chores? I personally don’t care to do housework, but I like how my house looks, smells and feels when it is clean, so I focus on how I will feel in my clean my house after I spend some time tidying up.

As more people are awakening to the fact that happiness comes from within, they realize it is our own completedness that we are meant to experience and share. When you like who you are and what you are doing in your life, everything changes including the energetic vibe you give off. When you like who you are, you are never alone. To get to like yourself, you need to know yourself. It all lies within.

Commit to the relationship you have with yourself this winter. When was the last time you spent 10 minutes sitting quietly and simply listening to your inner voice and your body? Do the unconventional and spend some time with yourself and reflect inward to what you want to do and to experience later in the year and beyond. Let your imagination be your guide as you plan out your future. Use your heart as your inspiration and know that sunny days are ahead.

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Wayne Dyer has said; ~You are never alone when you like the person you are with ~ so be that person. It will change your life.

      LIVE INSPIRED!

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