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Releasing Shame

Emotional wellness plays such an important role in our overall well-being and is often overlooked in terms of energetic significance.  Much research is being directed to understanding the role of our emotional energy and how it affects our very lives.

Because science has long taught us to rely on what we can see and touch, we often overlook our thoughts, emotions and spirit as being capable of generating frequencies that affect us. Everything in the universe has a frequency and vibrates according to that frequency, including our emotional state.  

Dr. David Hawkins, MD, PhD, was a forerunner in understanding how to measure our energy using applied kinesiology techniques and frequency and how our emotional states ‘measure up’ in his book Power vs Force.

Frequency is defined as a measurable rate of electrical energy that is constant between any two points. When there is frequency, there is a potential for electromagnetic current.   

On the above chart we see measured emotional states and how some emotions leave us feeling drained and while others leave us feeling expanded.

Dr. Hawkins measured various emotional expressions from the highest (enlightenment) to the lowest (shame) and many states in between. His work is fascinating and easy to comprehend. Higher frequencies radiate a beneficial and healing effect on the world, and points out the states to avoid as shame, guilt, apathy, fear, grief and pride. States that leave a person feeling uplifted are courage, acceptance, reason, love, joy and peace.

Many of life’s experiences can leave a person feeling the energy of the lower expressions. It may not be the fault of the person who is feeling the lower expressions, but it is their responsibility to find ways to elevate and restore their frequency.

To be able to understand how powerful our emotional states influence our frequency, it helps to understand how our physical body measures up. The normal range for a human physical body measures between 62 and 78 Hz. Colds and disease begins at 58 Hz, flu like symptoms begin at 57Hz, candida at 55Hz and cancer at 42Hz. Death results at 25Hz. Is it any wonder that shame registers even lower than physical death at 20Hz and is considered the most toxic of all the emotions followed closely by guilt.

Shame and guilt go hand-in-hand and overtime can bring a person’s state of wellness down. Shame is an inherently human emotion, but there is a time, a place and a limit for shame. Good shame tells us when we are doing something that goes against our values or when we are being inappropriate with someone else. It allows us to discern when we are harming another. By understanding good shame, we can have mutually beneficial and intimate relationships with others by not exceeding our boundaries.

Shame is the most soul-destroying emotion we have. The hormone that combats shame is oxytocin, the love hormone.

People who have been hurt, abused or sexually assaulted often experience an incredible amount of shame. Shame can be brought on by another person through violations of love; and sexual assault is the most intimate form of violence a person can impose on another. To know this can help the person who is feeling the shame move away from it and into the higher states of being. Once they realize how toxic shame affects their body, mind and soul they can take measures to release shame.

I hope this short introduction on our emotional states of being, in particular shame, illustrates how shame is detrimental to our overall well-being. If at any time someone is feeling chronic shame, addressing and releasing it can prevent it from manifesting into physical symptoms.

We should never feel ashamed about who we are. Sometimes shame is used by people who project it onto others whom they want to control their actions, thoughts or behaviors. Be aware if others are using shame or guilt to control your thoughts, emotions or beliefs, and become consciously aware of what emotions you are feeling at any given time.

Energy is Everything

Releasing toxic emotions are a great way to help elevate your frequency and improve your sense of well-being. Within the range above, what emotional state would you like to feel and be in more often?

If you would like to discuss various techniques to eliminate and reduce shame to elevate your frequency, contact us at www.endinggloballoneliness.com.We are happy to help get your energy flowing more freely again.

#selflove #self respect #self esteem #shame 

Trust You Are Enough!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sometimes I wonder if being led to believe we are not good enough or that we have to deserve amazing things in our lives hasn’t been the most misleading piece of information we received growing up. It brings a smile to my face to watch all around me, people coming into their own as they realize they are enough and they deserve to live happy and healthy lives. Over the decades, Media, Hollywood and social norms have tried to convince us that we weren’t enough, but that simply isn’t true. Where did we ever get the idea that we weren’t good enough? Many people are unhappy with their lives, and are looking for ways to change it. Yes, we live in disturbing times; but that doesn’t mean we can’t use the situation we are in to redefine who we are and relearn that We Are Enough.

Make 2018 the year that you Trust You Are Enough!

Living life with more meaning and depth requires we change things. Change is scary for a lot of people. People rarely make major changes without first recognizing a desire to change. When we want to make changes in our life, becoming self-aware is part of the process and so is taking stock of what you would like to change. When we make changes, having a sense of where you are at in your life allows you to measure your progress.

Many of us came from homes where family members struggled with their own self-esteem and lack of self-appreciation which spilled over and became part of our collective identity. It was the norm to keep from bringing too much attention to one self for fear of being accused of drama or trying to take all the attention. This created low self-esteem and self-doubt. Recognizing low self-esteem is often the catalyst that takes our awareness inward where we can identify it and clear out any negative beliefs we have of our self. Cleaning out the old opens the door to esteeming ourselves properly from within.

This isn’t about criticizing our past; it’s about taking stock of where we are now. If we can clean out the old messaging that we are not good enough, we can make room for new beliefs that reflect the true nature and the good qualities about us. Get rid of the old messaging that says you are not good enough, because if you are making changes in your life, negative self-talk will only hold you back.

How to elevate your self-esteem.

  • Choose 3 areas in your life that you would like to see change and day dream about what your life would be like if you were living it now. (Focus on what you want over what you don’t want as positive intent elevates our energy and vibration.).
  • Make a list of your strengths. Note if this makes you feel uncomfortable. This is not about stroking our ego. Too often we look for what is wrong with us over what is right with us. This can leave us feeling down on ourselves or less inspired about our future. Loving and appreciating all of your good qualities may not be familiar for you; it may even selfish at first, but with a little practice and some perseverance, you can easily know what you are good at as you incorporate it into your daily life.
  • Make a list of what you don’t like about yourself and ask yourself where your beliefs came from. Are your beliefs yours or do they belong to someone else who said something that made you think less of yourself? Be brutally honest with yourself. Many times it is words said to us by others that we internalized that keep us back. Write down your negative beliefs on a separate piece of paper. Write down every thing that comes up, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. When you are finished, look it over then take it outside and either bury it in your yard or burn the list and let the ashes float away as they take the negative beliefs with them. Be done with them and cast them out as they no longer serve you. Trust you are enough. 

To trust we are enough to register within you, you have to do more than recite the words out loud. We have to believe it to be true and to know and feel it’s real to be able to love ourselves from within. It is hard to do if you doubt yourself.

To trust we are enough means we have genuine confidence as we step into new challenges and personal growth moving forward. When we esteem ourselves from within, we can radiate that outward and attract more positive energy and outcomes back to us. This is a very inspired way to live life. The simple act of believing in ourselves has a powerful influence over us and our surroundings, and it deserves our attention.

Visit us at www.endinggloballoneliness.com and check out past blogs, where you can find many tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself and others or leave a comment below and share what great ways you esteem yourself so others can learn from your experliences.

Trusting we are enough is the key to creating the lives we want and so richly deserve.

Unlock the Power within, as you remember how amazing you really are.

In love and support,

Sandy

#Self-esteem #change #trustyouareenough

The Five Most Effective Ways to Build Trust in Yourself

 

 

 

 

 

Albert Einstein has been attributed as saying; “You can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that created it.” Re-training how we thick can be done with a new game plan.

How to do we know we are making the right choices for us? We are internally wise. Often we look to outside sources when we should be looking  to ourselves for the answers we seek. A big part of building inner trust is to learn how to trust our instincts. Trusting our instincts is huge when determining what is in our best interest. So how can we trust ourselves to find new solutions to old situations we want to have change?

Here are 5 ways to build trust in your own inner voice:

  1. Identify what it is that is giving you cause for concern at this time. What would you like to stop, change or enhance in your life? Ask yourself the question, then let it go and see what answers come to mind. This is a call to action to your instincts to help you identify what is concerning you.
  2. Write down the top three things you would like to experience in life. Knowing what is concerning you and what you want, allows you to create a map of where you are and where you want to go. With that in mind you can created a course of action or direction to take when exploring ways to resolve your concerns.
  3. Spend time alone. When you spend time alone it allows you to be open to hear what your inner voice is saying to you without the distraction of outside noise including other people.
  4. Listen your gut instead of your brain. This change has to be one of the most empowering shifts you can make. By listening to your gut, you can change your perspective. Our bodies know what is true for us if we allow ourselves to listen. It doesn’t mean you have to put what you know into action just yet; but learn to listen to your body to find the right answer. By practicing trusting your own instincts, you automatically increase your ability to learn to trust yourself more.
  5. Tune out everyone else. Too often we are concerned about what others will think of us or what we should do and it makes it hard to be honest with ourselves, so much so, that we hold back out fear of ridicule or reprisal. Make your decisions based on what you want. Of course this doesn’t mean you carelessly abandon responsibilities, it simply reminds you that what you want is important too.

Can you think of a time when you didn’t trust your instincts and it didn’t turn out for you? Remember how that made you feel? Use that memory as a catalyst to encourage you to trust yourself over others in the future.

As the saying goes, “We don’t know what we don’t know.” Be open to looking for different ways to find solutions to concerns you have. You can find more ways to get in touch with your instincts in Ending Global Loneliness; Finding Purpose, Love and Dynamic Relationships. or visit our website at www.endinggloballoneliness.com.

If you have made a bad decision because you didn’t trust yourself, please share your story in the comments below.

If you would like to rate your ability to trust yourself, rate your ability between 1-10 to see how well you are willing you are to trust your instincts to guide you.

Trusting yourself is the new age way of moving ahead in life. Get on board as more people are re-learning how to trust them self.

 

#endinggloballoneliness #change #trustyourself

Integrity: What It Is, Why We Need It and How to Lead with It.

 

 

 

With so much information coming to light regarding unethical behavior, corruption and abuse of power, integrity is needed now more than ever. There are some values that help us stay aligned with what is important to us and integrity is one that is worthy of review.

It is a great time to get reacquainted with our own value system and inner compass so we can be aligned with our integrity. (Although integrity is considered predominantly a masculine trait, both men and women are capable of operating from a place of integrity). For the purpose of this blog, I will apply integrity to men.

Integrity is what makes a man trustworthy and makes people want to follow his lead.

 Men of integrity tend to be:

·         Men who know who they are and what they stand for.

·         Men who have a purpose in life that is bigger than they are.

·         Men who wear their values like a code of honor—their word matters to them.

·         Men who protect the vulnerable and less fortunate in society.

·         Men who stand up for truth.

·         Men who have an aura of inner strength about them—observable in the way the carry themselves in their day-to-day activities.

·         Men who lead by example and make excellent role models and mentors for younger men.

Younger generations deserve to have great role models and mentors to show them how to live with integrity. If we get the momentum going, integrity is an art that they can pass on too.

I love the leading phrase in the article; 10 Ways to be a Man of Integrity “Character is what you do when no one else is looking.” It captures the picture of integrity splendidly, but knowing and doing is often easier said than done. This point is well illustrated in The Art of Manliness. It provides questions for men to use for self-discovery about choices they are presented with in life. Some might consider this site to be dated, as it provides many opportunities to reminisce about what hobbies, interests and behaviors have inspired men in the past.

The Good Men Project has a growing readership and also offers great insight to help men reacquaint with integrity and other issues that affect men.

These articles support the need for and the value of integrity. By living in integrity you are presenting the best version of yourself, being a role model for others and enhancing the relationships you have.

If you would like a personal road map to increase your degree of integrity and enhance your own intimate relationship, pick up your copy of Ending Global Loneliness; Finding Purpose, Love and Dynamic Relationships It is full of tips, techniques and insights that will inspire you to be the best version of yourself that you can be or visit us at www.endinggloballoneliness.com for more tips on how to align with your own integrity.

If you are inspired, share this blog with others that you know are looking to redefine their masculine presence in the world and live in integrity.

I hope your week is full of love, connection and integrity!

Be the Change You Want to See in the World~Be the One!

 

Sandy

#endinggloballoneliness #integrity #worldpeace