Integrity: What It Is, Why We Need It and How to Lead with It.

Although this blog was written for men, integrity is a personal value that women can aspire too as well. For too long we have been encouraged to be less than what we are truly are capable of. By revisiting the value of integrity, we can aspire to be the best version of our self we can possibly be.

If there is one thing that looks good on a man it has to be integrity. Integrity is what makes a person trustworthy and makes people want to follow their lead.

 Men of integrity tend to be:

  • Men who know who they are and what they stand for.
  • Men who have a purpose in life that is bigger than they are.
  • Men who wear their values like a code of honour—their word matters to them.
  • Men who protect the vulnerable and less fortunate in society.
  • Men who stand up for truth.
  • Men who have an aura of inner strength about them—observable in the way the carry themselves in their day-to-day activities.
  • Men who lead by example and make excellent role models and mentors for younger men.

Younger generations deserve to have great role models and mentors to show them how to live with integrity. If we get the momentum going, integrity is an art that they can pass on too.

It is assumed that intelligence is the measure of a man, when it has been morality all along

I love the leading phrase in the article; 10 Ways to be a Man of Integrity “Character is what you do when no one else is looking.” It captures the picture of integrity splendidly, but knowing and doing is often easier said than done. This point is well illustrated in The Art of Manliness. It provides questions for men to use for self-discovery about choices they are presented with in life. Some might consider this site to be dated, as it provides many opportunities to reminisce about what hobbies, interests and behaviors have inspired men in the past.

The Good Men Project has a growing readership and also offers great insight to help men reacquaint with integrity and other issues that affect men.

These articles support the need for and the value of integrity. By living in integrity you are presenting the best version of yourself, being a role model for others and enhancing the relationships you have.

If you would like a personal roadmap to increase your degree of integrity and enhance your own intimate relationship, pick up your copy of Ending Global Loneliness; Finding Purpose, Love and Dynamic Relationships It is full of tips, techniques and insights that will inspire you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

I hope this blog helps others to remember how amazing we truly are and that personal integrity is something we should be proud of.

If you are inspired, share this blog with others that you know are looking to redefine their masculine presence in the world and live in integrity.

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I hope your week is full of love, connection and integrity!


The Great Awakening is Upon Us

There is a reason this period of time is referred to as the great awakening.

Many people are waking up to the reality that life as it has been presented to us, isn’t actually the reality at all, that we are missing a major component to what life is really about.

We live in a system that works for the benefit of the few; it is a top down system that caters to those at the top, and progressive serves those all the way down the hierarchy with less respect and total distain toward their own existence and plight.

Many cannot complain of this system because most of their creature comforts are looked after in the material world, while many go without the basic necessities or are living in a state of fear that they soon will be without.

This is not about giving to charity, it is about co-creating a framework where we all prosper.

We have been programmed in an era of fear, and that is coming to an end.

Religious, educational/institutional, familiar, societal programming has conditioned us to accept what is not acceptable.

“Be good, or you are going to hell”.

“Get good grades and don’t question your teachers or you will get a failing grade and won’t get a good job”.

“Don’t be too big for your britches”.

The statements that kept members of society playing small are endless. All these statements are symptoms of living in a society where young and old alike were controlled with fear and shame.

People are walking away from this control dynamic in droves. We should be able to live in our own authority, to be sovereign in our own bodies; to be able to be our selves without judgement, or even worse, told who we should be. We are created innately divine and internally wise, yet have been steered away from using our own internal mechanisms. Learning how to go inward to find our true power is an inside job and no one can do it for us, except us, for us.

  • Review your religious beliefs; what does god and spirituality mean to you?

Are your thoughts your own or were they the thoughts others wanted you to believe?

  • What does education mean to you? Does our current education model encourage people to strive their highest potential or does it pump out mediocracy?

Are your beliefs yours or were they indoctrinated into you through the education system?

  • What beliefs did you learn in your family? Were you treated as a valuable member or were you treated with lack of respect and appreciation?

Ask yourself what holds true for you based on your own beliefs.

We all fear change, yet we can not evolve without it. Fear of change creates resistance and resistance creates blocks to the natural flow of life, growth and self development.

Surrender. When you resist change, you are saying no to the flow of life. Say yes to change and let go and make room for the magic to begin.

Simply choose to change and find a life that’s based on love and truth; love and light for we need both. Love without truth is delusional. Truth without love heartless. Do so without guilt or shame about choices you have made in the past.

Look deeper inward where all your answers are waiting for you to ask yourself the right questions. Our answers lie in the questions we ask.

Listen to your inner voice of wisdom to guide your decisions and the changes you make.

Choose a path that brings you more peace, joy, unity and happiness and as you access more of these states of being, share them outward.

All change begins within and life never stops changing, that is the beauty of growth and self discovery.

Once you have discovered the pathway within, you will turn to it with more trust and love in your heart, for you will know it is true for you. Being able to trust your own discernment will develop into more appreciation of yourself.

During this great awakening, life will benefit those who are willing to break free from the programming and living true to themselves.

This is the new reality, the one we are awakening to.

I hope you have enjoyed this message of inspiration.


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We are the change we have been waiting for

Lucky # 13: The Rise of the Divine Feminine

As an Energy and Personal Transformation Coach, I realized there are certain aspects about our human energy systems and our femininity that are not commonly known. When we understand how our energy flows, we can access more of our higher sensory perceptions, and that is what I would like to shine the light on as we explore the power in Lucky #13.

Contrary to what western science and biology would have us believe, humans are beings of energy, sound and light. Our body is made of light, sound and color and is not a genetic field as we were told. Even our atoms are not physical; they are energy vortices—and every atom is a vibrational field in of itself.

Human energy systems are electro-magnetic. They are either Masculine or Feminine. Every culture honours this knowledge with the exception of one. For whatever reason it is not acknowledged in western culture or western academia. The Asian culture gets it and refers to this energy coupling as Yang/masc or Yin/female. The Eastern Indian culture knows this energy as Shiva/male or Shakti/female. There are only two forms of energy, male and female, and they are designed to complement each other when operating efficiently as Mother Nature designed them.

To intimately know our energy systems, is to shine light on how to incorporate our full potential including our abilities that are invisible to the naked eye. We all have these wonderful abilities, the abilities of intuition, of being able to express our feelings, and of knowing things without explaining how, to name a few. These wonderful abilities are considered feminine in nature and they are here to help guide us in our physical reality. Our energy systems become balanced when we remember to include the power of our feminine energy. When we are in balance, we can express ourselves from higher emotional states of being such as love, compassion and kindness.

To know how to navigate our energy systems, is to realize the power Mother Nature has inherently built into our innate selves. This inherent wisdom includes knowing that numbers influence our reality and our decision making on a day-to-day basis.

Numbers, symbols and sounds reflect who we are and influence humans on a sub-conscious level. What is not so well known is how they influence us and to what degree.

Thirteen is the number that represents the Divine Feminine/Holy Mother energy and all the good she stands for. Divine feminine energy is symbolic of unconditional love, kindness, pleasure and happiness which then begs the questions:

  • “Why has the western society been programmed to believe number Thirteen represents the exact opposite of it’s true nature?”
  • “Why have we been led to believe #13 represents superstition and bad luck to the point we have been programmed to not only fear it, but often hate it?”
  • “Why have we been programmed to despise the very feminine essence of who we are on a sub-conscious level?”

#13 represents the creators of life. As we rebirth the divine feminine in ourselves, we honour the creator in all of us. The feminine is the Mother from which all life is born. Without her, there is no life on our planet. The feminine also represents the joy, the laughter, the creativity and the happiness so many people long to experience again.

Divine Feminine/Mother energy also represent abundance and being open to receiving all that is good in the world. By turning our backs on the power of the 13, we turn our backs on the power of real femininity, and in doing so, we turn our backs on receiving all that is good and abundant in life.

How did we let this superstition lead us so far astray? Was this superstition imposed on the people to have us work against our own best interests or to keep us from receiving bounty and all that is good in life?

So why the deception? Who has worked so hard to encourage so many people to fear and hate the number that represents the Divine Feminine/Mother energies?

While we attempt to improve our circumstances in a world that is growing more insane by the minute, we inadvertently sabotage ourselves by pushing away the very things we so dearly want to experience and express in life when we are not open to receiving in our feminine energy.

Nature is Divinely Designed

The divine feminine energy is the very essence of life. It is all around us and is expressed through our beloved Mother Nature. There are 13 moon cycles, and it is not surprising that the Earth’s moon is associated with feminine energy. As our planet is also considered feminine, nor is it surprising that our Earth provides all of us with what we need in life as she is the Mother to all of us.

There are thirteen, twenty-eight-day cycles in a year making the year three hundred and sixty-four days long. Thirteen, twenty-eight-day cycles is a much more harmonious approach to a yearly cycle than the up and down Gregorian calendar we currently use. If this were not the case, would they need to add an extra day every four years (Feb 29th) to balance a timeline that is out of sync with nature?

Our hearts were meant to beat with the rhythm of mother earth energies, so why have we strayed away from Nature?

 It is No Longer Acceptable to Suppress the Very Essence of Who We Are

As the divine feminine energy reclaims her rightful place on the planet, we can rest assured we will find other ways feminine energy has been suppressed. We can also remember we have the right to reverse that trend.

Humans have free will, and with it comes a new reality that we will no longer accept suppression of the Divine Feminine/Mother as we awaken to our true and divine nature of love, peace, harmony and compassion.

Part of the divine feminine is taking responsibility for ourselves. Yes, we must acknowledge the lesser energy in us that can be petty, manipulative, competitive or afraid. We must also acknowledge the aspects of ourselves that can be gullible and naïve, for divine feminine is none of those things. We can acknowledge them and release them without shame or guilt. We have been duped into being less than our best selves for too long. That was the old energy—there is no stopping the rise of the divine feminine—we are here to stay. When we no longer allow the lies and deception that has suppressed our divine feminine essence to maintain control over us, we will move ourselves forward to our rightful place on the planet.

The TRUTH will set us free. Nothing can keep us from remembering the divine, loving, nurturing aspects of our human selves if we choose to awaken it.

Embracing Your Femininity Will Enhance Your Life

To step into our true power and help restore the balance of masculine and feminine energy on the planet starts from within. Let’s do so with new respect for our divinely feminine selves.

As the community of women who know what it means to be divinely feminine grows, get back in touch with your divinely feminine attributes and write out what you love about your feminine aspects as you start to remember how divinely beautiful feminine energy really is.

If this post resonates with you and you are interested in helping restore the Divine Feminine aspects within humanity, email me at or share your ideas in the comment section below on how we can help rebirth the divine feminine energy in all of us.                                       

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Until then, take good care of yourself and others.


Oath ~ Do No Harm (for people who work with children of all ages)

The Quality of Life for all People is Dependent upon the Quality of Our Society

Protecting children from maltreatment must become a priority or our society will continue our descent toward creating unhealthy, unbalanced, fear driven generations who are left without the life skills or know how to lead a good life.

School, social media, religion, care homes and society in general have become a battlefield in recent years causing great concern for individuals tasked with promoting the well-being of children whether they be teachers, religious leaders, parents or students themselves.

With the diverse culture in our society, it is still possible to achieve a code of conduct that survives the test of diversity if it is designed in a way that everyone can benefit through adherence to policies. For this environment to be truly effective, guidelines must be established and apply to everyone, for if they don’t apply to everyone, they apply to no one.

When we recognize the importance of everyone, we can co-exist in an environment when we know that all persons are valued equally.

Creating win-win solutions allows for an exceptional environment that promotes education, inspiration, safety and above all else, integrity. It is from the spirit of integrity that we can protect all people who are connected to these facilities regardless of their position in the system.

For many reasons there is concern that components of our society need to be addressed, modified and rewritten to reflect the truth about our human nature. When we have a better understanding of our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical needs, we can guide younger generations to aspire to grow into being the best version of them self.

As new guidelines are being developed, rewritten and put in place, we can remain true to our values to help everyone come from a place of integrity. With the empowerment of integrity, we can create environments which elevates everyone’s self esteem and sense of confidence. When we anchor our intentions with integrity, it strengthens our inner core helping people to thrive to their maximum potential.

For the individuals who work with children there are basic caveats to guide you such as:

  • Always have the best intention for the person(s) you are working with as your primary objective
  • Stay true to yourself and your integrity
  • Always come from a place of truth
  • Encourage self-development and growth when appropriate
  • Remove yourself if you are in conflict of interest
  • Above all else, Do No Harm

In knowing your intentions are for the highest good for all parties involved, we can also outline what behaviors are not to be embarked upon.

Negative environments can affect anyone, and because children in particular are impressionable, they can spiral downwards if exposed to it for a short or a prolonged period of time. This can have detrimental and long term effects on them making it more difficult to participate in, enjoy and feel inspired in life.

Children model after adults. Emotionally well-adjusted adults are what children need to guide them and protect them until they are mature enough and able to make healthy decisions for themselves. Children need adults to look out for their well-being, not only the adults in their immediate family, but the adults they come across at various junctures in their lives through various organizations and associations.

Emotionally well-adjusted adults consider the consequences their actions and behaviours will have on the child five, ten and even fifteen years down the road before they undertake them, where non-emotionally adjusted adults don’t have the skills to discern the difference.

The following are specific behaviors to avoid as they can cause incredible harm to a developing child.

Harmful Behaviours

Physical abuse

Physical abuse includes all acts by a caregiver, or another person (including another child, teacher, coach, clergy or person who has access to the child) which results in the physical harm to the child.

  • It may be the result of physical abuse or the result of inappropriate or excessive discipline regardless of the intent by the person inflicting the abuse.
  • It is irrelevant whether the injury to the child is considered minor or major; the responsibility and accountability fall to the person inflicting the abuse.


  • hurting a child to control their behaviour
  • deliberate or not; use of physical punishment resulting in injury  whether marks are left on the child or not
  • physical injury that occurs resulting from lack of care or supervision by the caregiver or an adult/older child
  • excessive tickling
  • physical injury resulting from shaken infant syndrome
  • whiplash

Intellectual Abuse

Intellectual Abuse involves the interfering with or impairing the reasoning skills of a child, which alters a child’s ability to discern and use proper judgement to form opinions and to distinguish between truth and lies.

These behaviours include but are not limited to

  • manipulation of the child’s thoughts so the child will draw a conclusion that the controller wants them to believe.
  • telling lies to a child with the intention of having the child believe those lies are a reality.
  • threatening a child, with the intent of having the child behave a certain way for the benefit of the person doing the threatening.
  • not taking a child’s concerns seriously when they tell you of incidents of bullying or abuse.
  • Telling children to resolve their own issues when they are being bullied by another child.
  • manipulating the people around the child with the intent of interfering with the child’s intellectual environment.

Sexual Abuse

For the most part, child sexual abuse involves a person who has power or influence over a child. This power can stem from that person’s authority, age, intellectual or physical development, relationship, authority or power over, or dependence with the child. It can include age or predatory nature of another child or adult who encourages or forces a child into sexual activities.

Sexual abuse encompasses any sexual activity with a child, including but not limited to

  • fondling
  • genital stimulation
  • oral sex
  • grinding your genitals up against a child under the pretense of giving a body hug or otherwise
  • using fingers, penis, or objects for vaginal or anal penetration
  • touching a child in a sexual way
  • promoting or demanding unsafe sex
  • kissing inappropriately
  • using a child for their own sexual gratification, exploitation, or for financial or other gain (payment for drugs or debts)
  • forcing or encouraging a child to touch another adult/child in a sexual way
  • forcing or encouraging a child to touch him/herself for another person’s gratification
  • masturbating in front of a child or forcing/coercing/encouraging them to masturbate themselves with or without the intent of having the child achieve orgasm
  • rape, either vaginal or anal
  • voyeurism
  • sexual dialogue with or in front of children
  • inappropriate displays of sexual expression in front of children
  • forcing or encouraging a child to participate in pornography or prostitution
  • sexual comments directed to or about a child encouraging others to be offside with the child (e.g. “Look everyone, little _______, is developing breasts”)
  • male or female genital mutilation or threat of

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a pattern of overt or covert behaviour directed towards a child with a goal of controlling or reducing the esteem of the child. Understanding there is a consequence for everything we do and say is a great reminder of how powerful our words and actions are.

These behaviours include but are not limited to:

  • a pattern of attacking a child’s sense of worth and/or emotional development
  • criticizing a child’s actions, looks, feelings, dress, etc.
  • belittling a child
  • threatening: “If you don’t conform….”
  • threatening a child’s loved one(s) or family, if a child does not behave a certain way
  • teasing
  • humiliating

Spiritual Abuse

There are many different viewpoints regarding spirituality and what it means. There are believers and non-believers that our spirituality is a part of the human condition. As there seems to be gravitation toward spirituality again, it is timely to examine the merits of it. Although everyone has the right to decide for them self what is right for them, for the believers, spirituality contributes to our sense of wholeness. Spirituality and religion can be, but are not necessarily inclusive.

Some religious organizations advocate for marriage with girls under age 18. For many, and rightly so, this is considered abuse because most 18-year-old girls are not mature enough to choose a mate for themselves wisely. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could act in the best interest of the children when it comes to human sexuality?

For many, our spirituality involves our feeling of wholeness and our connectedness to our own sense of inner and divine guidance. It is the integration of the mind, body and soul within itself and with our connection to all that is around us. It also influences how we interact within the world around us including our relationship with nature. It also involves believing in a power or force that is greater than our individual, physical selves. This power goes by many names depending on your belief. Source, source of energy, spirit, universe, God, Allah, and Creator are some of the more common terms used. For many, the above words are synonymous with all encompassing, unconditional love and are sourced in divinity. Spirituality is all encompassing and involves how we express who we are with others and in the environment around us. It is what unites us as one.

For many, spirituality is found by turning to their own intuition, inner wisdom, and higher consciousness for divine guidance. This can be achieved either through prayer, meditation and various practices in energy work. Some people prefer to use a combination of both inner guidance (prayer and meditation), and outer reinforcement (from religious/spiritual groups) to enhance their spiritual connection. Spending time alone in quiet contemplation, in prayer or in meditation is a gentle way to reacquaint yourself with your spiritual practices.

Deeper meaning in life cannot be found through intellect alone. To experience deeper meaning in life, one must look within. Spirituality can help facilitate deeper appreciation when you encompass all aspects of your inner self. It is by mastering our inner world that we find true meaning of life.

Accessing our spirituality requires we spend time alone to cultivate our ability to use our inner divine guidance as we process the choices that are presented to us in life.

Inward reflection can be encouraged in children at an early age. By encouraging them to spend time alone with their own thoughts, feelings, inner awareness, hobbies, creative interests and to connect with nature prepares them to turn to their own intuition later in life as they go about establishing their priorities and choices. Creative expression and passion can also develop into a life purpose as they mature and can be the foundation they use to build a relationship with themselves.

Developing the ability to turn to your own inner guidance is instrumental in being able to learn to trust your own judgment as one matures into adulthood. To grow up guided by one’s principles requires preparation and an examination of one’s priorities and values. As one learns to trust their own guidance, it will help them as they are faced with life’s situations, and the subsequent actions they take based on their decisions.

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I hope you have found the tips in this ‘Oath’ helpful. Most people want to provide an environment of safety on all fronts for all members of society.

Knowing what not to do as you interact with others is as important as getting it right. Knowing this can provide everyone with confidence as they interact with others and it goes a long way in creating trust in the areas that service our youth. By knowing both what to do and what not to do and why, you create an environment where everyone is, and does, feel safe.

If we want to effect positive change, it helps to stop repeating the same patterns of communicating and interacting especially if they have created problems for us in the past. If we don’t make those changes in our communication patterns and how we interact with others, it makes it difficult to expect anything to change around us for the better.

By reviewing our communication patterns and our intentions, issues can be addressed and redirected, and can better reflect the needs of all of society’s members.

As a model for best practices, I, (name)___________________am aligned with the above oath and pledge to follow the guidelines as prescribed as they are in the best interest of children while in my care.

If you know of anyone person, group or organization interested in having and following the best of intentions to protect children through taking the ‘Oath To Do No Harm,’ they can contact us through our website at

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The above Oath is provided by Sandy Glaze. Sandy Glaze is a Personal Transformational Coach who specializes in self-development and interpersonal relationships. She is a Certified Strategic Intervention and an Advanced Relationship Coach, published author and speaker.

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