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The Purpose of Addiction

Addiction is a form of personal management that numbs an individual’s emotional discomfort. Addictions serve a purpose; they medicate emotions. On the most part, addictions are usually developed when a person is unable to heal from some form of pain and suffering. It is usually people who have experienced a traumatic event who turn to addiction as a means of taking unpleasant feelings away. Unfortunately, when addictions numb out the feelings that make us feel bad, they also block out the feelings that make us feel good, including feelings of love.

Love is sorely missed in this world; it’s the lack of love that creates a sense of separation in us from the rest of the world. With the level of pain and suffering we are witnessing in North America today, is it any wonder that so many people are medicating and choosing addiction as a way to cope with their emotional pain?

Addictions are a ‘not so healthy’ way of coping where the individual numbs out their emotions with compulsive behavior or by altering their mood through chemical use such as drugs, alcohol, or both.

There are better ways than addiction to cope. Going for walks, spending time in nature, making art, writing, drawing, carpentry work, spending time with loved ones are all forms of creative expression, are good for us, and are a more positive way to express our feelings.

More and more people are recognizing the power of our emotional well-being. The goal of overcoming addictions is to be able to feel our feelings again; to feel feelings that were too painful to acknowledge in the past, and to make room for emotions that leave us feeling more positive in the present and future. I am not referring to getting over a feeling, but the ability to feel the feeling, release it, and move forward; of being able to enjoy your life while experiencing your emotions. To flow with your emotions, to let them come, stay with you and leave when you no longer feel it. It is how you manage your energy and your emotional states, including love. Love is inside of us waiting for us to bring it to life again. It is often by denying ourselves the feeling of love and connection that throws our energy into addictive patterns and that can have a negative spiraling effect on us.

In Power versus Force, Dr. David Hawkins wrote about conscious states of being. It’s the lower states of consciousness that we are trying to avoid with addiction. Based on his findings, I place addictions right in the middle on the scale of: Shame, guilt, fear, anger, addiction, awareness, love, consciousness and enlightenment. The same scale can be applied to our emotions.

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Ridding Yourself of Fear

Releasing Fear that is Stored in Our Bodies

Have you ever watched animal kingdom videos and observed an animal’s natural tendencies and abilities to cope with their frightening experiences? In particular when one animal is being preyed upon by another and gets away, the animal that was preyed upon will go to a place where it feels safe and it will shake until the fear leaves its body. They shake it off.

We witness similar behavior with pets in the midst of an intense thunderstorm; they often shake until the fear has subsided. To witness shaking caused by fear in pets often makes the pet owner feel uncomfortable when it is a normal way for the pet to cope to prevent the fear from storing itself in its body. Nature has its own way of riding itself from fear. Animals use their natural ability to shake and remove the residual tension and adrenaline from their physical bodies when they are afraid and in doing so, don’t carry the tension with them any longer.

When people feel fear we often do the exact opposite, we clench our torso region and body, we hold our bodies tight and rigid in an attempt to control our responses as opposed to letting the fear flow through us and out of our bodies. This build-up of tension over time can have a negative impact on our physical and emotional well-being.

I’ve heard it said that fear is the ego and I disagree. Sometimes we have every right to be afraid of what we are experiencing, but when we let our mind paralyze our bodies with fear it registers at a cellular level. It lodges as a memory and as an unprocessed emotion that blocks our energetic flow. Our issues get lodged in our tissues. Until we are ready to release the tension from our bodies, the tension will sit there (or accumulate if more fear or unprocessed emotions are experienced) until our bodies become ill, run down or we numb out our feelings completely in order to avoid feeling the fear. This is a basic defense mechanism. Because our minds don’t like to feel fear, we shut down our emotions in order to escape feeling afraid and in doing so we let the tension overtake our physical form.

There are ways to release tension from our bodies. One way is to shake. Shaking helps mobilize our energy (chi). It gets our energy flowing in and around our bodies again. This short video describes and shows how to shake your body.  Click here to view Use your own discernment when deciding how passively or enthusiastically you attempt to shake your body (No one knows your body as well as you do). As you strengthen this practice, you can build on your enthusiasm and momentum as you shake, removing even more pent up fear from your body.

Free your body of residual fear. Take two minutes today and shake, shake out any fear that may have lodged itself in your body. Listen to your body as you shake. Shake negative energy out and allow more positive energies to take up space within your physical body. Retrain your body to release fear and any other unprocessed emotions. The more we feel what our bodies need from us, the more we can access our deep human nature. The more we are in touch with our deep human nature; the more we are living true to who we really are.

Purge fear from your body and be aware of the space that opens up for new positive feelings to take up residence within you. Changing your energetic state is a prerequisite to changing your life and it all starts within. Shake out the old and make room for the new.

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 Four Things You Can Do to Prevent Feeling Lonely this January

Where I live, January traditionally is the most depressing time of the year and although there are plenty of opportunities to get out and do things to help get over the hump of feeling lonely or isolated, sometimes a more profound solution can be found closer to home. When people ask me how they can overcome feelings of loneliness, I suggest they turn to their inner guidance, their inner voice for answers. So if you haven’t tried it yet, do the unexpected. When experiencing any feelings of loneliness, just sit with the feeling and do nothing. That’s right; do nothing except get quiet, become aware and listen to yourself as you pay closer attention to what your inner voice is telling you.

As crazy as it sounds, if you haven’t checked in with yourself lately, try it.You may unearth a ton of information that you may not have been previously aware. You can get in touch with yourself a variety of ways. Here are my top four.

  1. Plan for your future in a way that you want to live it. Get excited about your future prospects. If you could live your life in the most fulfilling way, what would it look like? What do you want to experience in your life? Prepare a list of a minimum of three things. I’m not talking about acquiring nice jewelry or the fancy car that can amuse us temporarily; those are nice to have, but don’t give us a lot of meaning. I’m referring to what it is that inspires you. Feelings of loneliness can be brought on because of lack of feeling needed or fulfilled. As you create your list, don’t forget to include living your life with purpose. When you are driven by a desire to achieve what inspires you (your passion or your purpose), you become connected to your cause and more deeply to yourself. Is there a person who comes to mind that is doing something inspirational in the world that you admire? What inspires you? It feels good to make a difference in the world. Not having a purpose or cause can leave a person feeling in limbo and out of sync if they don’t feel inspired. Make this the year you ask yourself what you truly want. What have you got to lose? Having an idea of what you want your future to look like is a great first step in getting you where you want to be. You can take it a step further by asking; “How may I be of service to others.” Write it down so you can refer back to it periodically. If it is a life partner you are looking for, don’t be so focused on who they are. Instead envision what you will be doing when that person arrives. What will attract them to you? Besides, if you are counting on that person to bring you happiness, your union is doomed to fail; happiness comes from within.
  2. Take an inventory of your life as it is now. This is a simple self-awareness exercise to do. Look back at what you did in the last 12 months. Write down what worked for you and what did not. By separating out the various areas of your life, it makes it easier to recap how you spend your time. How much time did you spend with others and how much time did you take for yourself? What did you enjoy doing? Rate your overall feelings in categories of physical well-being, career, hobbies and interests, financial, relationships with yourself and others. How did the last 12 months measure up for you? What excited you and made you happy? Are you planning on doing anything differently in 2017? By outlining what makes you happy and by categorizing it in chunks of time, you can clearly see how your days, weeks and months were spent and with whom. What didn’t work for you? If something isn’t working for you anymore, can you remove it from your life or at least reduce the amount of time you spend doing what it is that you don’t like? (This could also apply to a person).
  3. Listen with your awareness. There are many ways we can experience loneliness, and feeling disconnected from ourselves is one of them. We can’t feel deeply connected to those around us if we aren’t feeling what is happening in our inner world. How does your body feel right now? Are you holding tension, feeling constricted or do you have a feeling of tightness anywhere in your body? Take a deep breath in and as you exhale, notice how your body feels to you. Repeat this a couple of times if it feels right. Is there something your body is telling you that you weren’t aware of? Listen to yourself without judgement—perhaps an idea comes to mind that gives you a fresh perspective on an issue you are facing. You are your most trusted advisor, and by listening to yourself, you are connecting with your inner self and when you do this on a richer, deeper level, you are never alone.
  4. Change your perspective to that of positivity. Being aware that you want your life to change is huge. With that awareness, you can change your vibe. What chores or mundane jobs are required of you that you don’t like to do? When you change your focus to what benefit you receive by doing a particular job or chore, it can turn the experience from a negative to a positive and positive people are infectious to be around. Is there a silver lining or a perspective that can be positively reflected upon with regard to your less than favorite chores? I personally don’t care to do housework, but I like how my house looks, smells and feels when it is clean, so I focus on how I will feel in my clean my house after I spend some time tidying up.

As more people are awakening to the fact that happiness comes from within, they realize it is our own completedness that we are meant to experience and share. When you like who you are and what you are doing in your life, everything changes including the energetic vibe you give off. When you like who you are, you are never alone. To get to like yourself, you need to know yourself. It all lies within.

Commit to the relationship you have with yourself this winter. When was the last time you spent 10 minutes sitting quietly and simply listening to your inner voice and your body? Do the unconventional and spend some time with yourself and reflect inward to what you want to do and to experience later in the year and beyond. Let your imagination be your guide as you plan out your future. Use your heart as your inspiration and know that sunny days are ahead.

If you would like to reflect even more deeply this year, pick up your copy of Ending Global Loneliness; Finding Purpose, Love and Dynamic Relationships. It is filled with tips, tools and techniques that you can use to feel more connected on the inside, and to live a more fulfilling life. Take the time to reacquaint yourself with yourself and make 2017 the year you get to know what really matters to you. Get your copy at amazon today.

Wayne Dyer has said; ~You are never alone when you like the person you are with ~ so be that person. It will change your life.


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Re-Purpose Your Life

The New Year brings about a wonderful opportunity to re-evaluate, re-purpose and re-establish what you want in your life. Out with the Old and In with the New provides us an inspiring message of hope and change. If change has been uncomfortable in the past, it can be scary to contemplate as we move forward into our future. For many of us, we have not been conditioned for change and without training, it is hard to do. Have we been conditioned to knuckle down and settle into life instead of revel in all that life has to offer us? Making change your new constant is a fantastic way to increase your creative flow as you consider what you would like to experience in your future. So ask yourself; “What do I want?”

Life is not linear—life is about experiencing cycles of growth, stagnation, death and rebirth, similar to the phoenix rising from the ashes. The phoenix is the spirit of the death and the rebirth. After a year like 2016, I’m sure many people are ready for a change and for a re-birth of future possibilities. The unknown is part of life, and for us to have hope, we need mystery. To know the future, would render life predictable and mundane. Endless changes are on the horizon when we are aware of new possibilities as we embrace change and the re-birth that comes from within.

Be open to change;

  • Visualizing your future helps, it helps with living aligned with what you want. Ask yourself “what if”, and right down whatever comes to mind. Be open to what you want to experience and feel in your future. Visualization also opens up the imagination. Be inspired to co-create your future life by dreaming about what you want to experience.
  • Commit your vision to paper; create a plan for yourself. What do you want your life to look like one year and five years from now? There are no guarantees in life, but with a plan you have a better chance of having the life you want providing you have included your life purpose in the planning. Creating this plan from the perspective of what you want to experience in your life over what you want to acquire allows you to embody the future experiences. If you could re-create your life, what would you be doing differently?
  • Look for like-minded people to see what they are doing to live their dreams. Observe what it is that they do so you can pick up some free lessons. Learn from them as you create the life that inspires you.
  • Get enthusiastic about life again. Take an inventory of what skills have you acquired so far that you can take into your future as you re-purpose your life.
  • Trust Yourself. Each of us has had different life experiences so far. Not everyone has the depth of experiences to draw on that you do—it is why it is important to trust yourself as only you can bring the lessons learned from those experiences forward. In doing so, it allows others to benefit from your knowledge.

Know that if you want things to change, you have to believe they can happen. Download the 1st chapter “Why We Are Here—Connecting with our Purpose in Life” of Ending Global Loneliness; Finding Purpose, Love and Dynamic Relationships. It’s full of tips and perspective on how to find your purpose in life and how to go about living it.  Get a jump start on 2017 as you put the spark back into your life.

Let the old go as you build a life you love, by living your life with purpose.

Live Inspired!

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